I know myself and I know that occasionally (okay, maybe a little more often than occasionally) I get restless. This feeling usually tags along with the feeling of “being stuck”. Don’t act like I’m crazy because I know you know exactly what I mean. So, the real question is how the heck do I get over it.
I’ve realized that I can’t pretend to ignore it or push it aside because then it just builds up and gets so much worse. I know it’s getting pretty bad when I start looking at plane tickets, places to live, furniture, and new cities to explore. I would be lying if I said I was the best at controlling all of it before my brain takes off running, but sometimes I get so distracted that I just get caught up. Luckily, I’ve found some ways to bring myself back to Planet Earth and I hope that what works for me might be able to help you.
Solo Dates: I honestly don’t know if I can say this enough, but you need to seriously date yourself. It sounds weird and kinda lame, but I promise you it is SO worth it. Feeling stuck and restless seems to stem from my frustrations and pent up emotions so taking myself out for a much needed me day is a good way to let it go (yeah, cue Frozen here). This can be anything you want it to be. I really love going to the movies and even more so when the theaters are empty and I can ugly cry without any judgement from the 10 year old sitting behind me. On a tiny side note, I think that the Solo Date is more than just about feeling unstuck. It’s also about loving yourself and being able to treat yourself without feeling completely uncomfortable about what others may think or say. Will they matter when you’re outta there? Negative. It sounds cheesy, but I promise it’s true.
Pros and Cons List: This is kind of one of those things that people seem to have pushed aside, although I’m not sure entirely why. The trick is to add a twist. The pros and cons list doesn’t have to be only a list of things. It can be a comparison of funds, funds to activities, activities to activities, people/situations that make you feel a certain way, etc. I just made one a few weeks back when I was deciding whether or not I should rent an apartment. I wanted to so bad, but something kept telling me it wasn’t my most brilliant idea so I made P/C list. It helped point out, in the boldest way possible, that I would have been on an extremely tight budget living on my own. I would have gained some much needed things, such as my own personal space and my own bathroom, but I would have missed out on extra savings with the addition of more bills. Living at home isn’t exactly ideal, but my parents have chosen to help me out. It gives me such an amazing opportunity to go full force into paying off any debt and working on my business.
The Staycation: Pack your bags, a cooler, and grab those shades from your dresser. It’s time to hit the beach – or anywhere, really. I think this kind of goes hand in hand with solo dates except that you can bring people with you on a Staycation. Staycations are about appreciating the place around you and your current situation, which also includes the people in it. It’s not gonna get rid of the travel bug entirely, but it’ll give you a temporary, new appreciation for a place that you feel is holding you back. The options are limitless and Google is right there to provide you with all of the ideas that you can’t imagine on your own.
Mini Vacation: Sometimes nothing, and I do mean nothing, can help rid you of the travel bug aside from getting up and going. I’m not saying it’s time to uproot your life and take off running, but plan a trip to a new city or even map out a short road trip and hit the road. Meet your friends somewhere or make new ones. Eat at the dingy diner on the way to your destination. Park on the side of the road and snap that awesome shot of the sunset. It’s worth it and, if you’re like me, it will help take some of the travel pressure off.
I know these aren’t permanent fixes; especially if you have a soul like mine, but they can help relieve some of the pressure. I know because I’ve been there. And eventually you will feel the need to get up and go…. again. There’s nothing wrong with that. I have this constant need to explore new places and culture. To meet new people and get lost. And you know? People always say you travel to find yourself, but I’ve realized that sometimes I like to completely lose myself. It’s part of the adventure, the mystery, and the excitement. I don’t think I would be able to continue on this journey of becoming who I want to be if I don’t lose what I think I know about myself. It’s this idea that you have to travel in order to find something, but sometimes it’s travel that has found you and that’s all it will be. I’m not sure if that makes sense, but it does to me.